Who gets the final say?

During one taxicab ride I took (I think it was from Tel Aviv to Haifa) we picked up a couple where the man was a Hebrew-speaking Israeli and his fiancée, who had an East Asian complexion and was an immigrant, didn’t speak Hebrew well and we spoke to her in English.

We got to talk about relationships, and the driver decided to ask people we saw beside the road "who gets the final say, before and after marriage?".

The driver stopped beside the road and asked one young woman that and she said: "[before?] the man" and "[after?] the woman".

A different one we asked told us "The woman gets the final say, both before and after the marriage."

We translated what they told us to English for the fiancée, and her Hebrew-speaking fiancé insisted they had mutual agreement as a couple.

True story.

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